Positive Steps Forward

Although we are in a tunnel of sadness, there are some positive things coming up on the horizon which we'd like to share with you.

On 8th November we are going to another 'Bereavement Day for Parents', this time locally in Reigate. We are hoping to meet some lovely people again and to share and comfort each other. This will be similar to the one we attended in Liverpool a few months ago but we felt we gained great strength and benefit from it we decided to do it again.

Then at the end of November we are going away for a weekend to Devon with a group of couples who have all lost an only child. It's not a formal structured weekend just a pre-Christmas get together and a chance to chat and help one another. We've been in touch with a couple of people and they seem very positive and friendly. We won't really know anyone but I'm sure we will do after a couple of days!

When we went to The Royal London Hospital a few weeks ago we were asked if we would help them set up a support group for people and their families who had been in Intensive Care. We are both really keen to do this and agreed without hesitation. They will contact us early next year to arrange things. They are so pleased with Neil and his progress and see him as a positive example

Christmas is looming and it will be such a hard time for us and our families. We have decided to help the homeless in Deptford for the Crisis Christmas Centre on Christmas Day and Boxing Day starting at 7.00 am! We should be finished late afternoon and able to see both families in the early evening. Just wanted to do something different. Christmas is a time for children and we just want it to come and go as quickly as possible.

Hopefully a few things to look forward to in the future.

One Day I'll Get My Wish!

It's been a while now since I last wrote. Hope you are all well.


I paid another visit to Royal London Hospital and they've now signed me off . They said it's still early days for my breathing to improve because they reckon on 12 to 18 months after you've been in intensive care. I happened to meet up with one of the male nursing staff who was on my operation, and his only comment to me was that 'I owe him a nights sleep' after what I put him through. After my consultation they agreed that I'm about 75 to 80% better, so I should be happy! but am I?

I'm enjoying reffing again but need to get off pretty quickly as I get terribly upset after the games, I'm sure I don't have to tell you why. I thought it might get easier to deal with, but it gets so much harder.

People have been fantastic, and I'm happy to admit, that at times I don't appear to be grateful for all that has been done.

Next year with the help of other great people we hope to do an annual event for the children. Still to be confirmed but will let you know early next year.

Nearly 10 months have now passed and alot has happened. To you all, thank you, thank you from the bottom of my heart. Nearly £30,000.00 quid in on and off-line charity donations do I need to say anymore!

To all, look after yourselves.

One day I'll get my wish! x